We have the ability to choose the dialogue we believe and respond to. And once we learn how, we can switch from lies to truth as deliberately as we can choose the Beatles over Miley Cyrus on satellite radio.
This week we examined the voices that we hear, mostly the negative ones, and how we are often immobilized because of them. We took some of the content for this week from pastor Steven Furtick’s book, “Crash the Chatterbox” where he talks about this voice.
There are four key areas in which negative thoughts are most debilitating and we will go through each one.
Insecurity: attacks our identity, it’s the one that tells us about ourselves in a negative way and reminds us of our character flaws. Some examples are:
- “You’re not smart. You’re not pretty.”
- “You’re not talented enough.”
- “You will NEVER get over….”
- “You will never be successful.”
- “You will be alone forever.”
Fear is a vital response to physical and emotional danger—if we didn’t feel it, we couldn’t protect ourselves from legitimate threats. When a car is coming straight at you, it’s normal to have a fear response.
“What if?” These are the most common fears, it’s fear of the unknown, and often paired with our failed identity.
“What if I fail?” “What if they don’t like me?” “What if they don’t call?” “What if I don’t get offered the job?” “What if I do?” These are all examples of fears that will stall us out and immobilize our future, when we dwell on them.
The condemnation of “Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda” You can’t undo something, you can only admit the wrong and apologize, learn from the wrong and do it differently next time. So how do we know it’s condemnation? It shows up like this: 1.Personal … “I” “Me”2.Permanent … “Always” “Never” 3.Pervasive … “Everything” So a common statement would be,”I always screw everything up.” That’s condemnation. Now that you heard it once, you’ll likely hear it everywhere.
Discouragement is common when you’re going through pain, when there seems to be no purpose to it or for it. Disappointment is the gap between what I expect and what I experience. That voice likes to exploit that gap and turn it into discouragement.
How do you get beyond that voice? Fill up on affirmations. Overload yourself with positive, life-affirming statements about yourself so that when that voice starts chattering, you can defend yourself.